How Unresolved Issues Can Affect Your Relationships

Unfortunately, not all relationships end well. And even more unfortunately, unresolved issues from those poorly-ended relationships can then affect later relationships. In order to regain control over your capacities to connect with others and develop healthy friendships or romantic relationships, it is important that you can identify and understand the potential effects of your past problems. Here are a few of those things to be aware of!

Make it Harder to Trust

A core part of relationships trust—trust with emotions, with time, with physicality, with information, with weaknesses, with everything. When you have been in a relationship in which your trust was broken, the vulnerability it took to place that trust in another person is completely undone. This often leads the betrayed individual to build ‘walls’ of caution and boundaries between them and other people to protect their feelings from being hurt again. As you meet new people and even begin to form connections with them, it may require a conscious effort and a slower pace to deconstruct those ‘walls’ of distrust and once again open yourself to inviting another person to share your thoughts, feelings, and those vulnerable aspects of your life.

Bring Back Past Trauma

“Harm” can manifest in a number of ways. One may be the breaking of trust, as mentioned before. Other serious forms of traumatic treatment include emotional abuse or manipulation, and physical assault. When an individual is on the receiving end of this kind of treatment, they may develop a condition called post traumatic stress disorder (or PTSD) in which certain physical or action-related triggers can bring back the memories and feelings of the abuse, and therefore cause panic or severe anxiety for the individual. PTSD is also a risk factor for substance abuse issues. If a partner has caused harm because of their addiction, the abused person may feel threatened or nervous around any future partners who use any of those same substances.

Lack of Confidence

Being hurt emotionally (or mentally and physically, for that matter) causes a serious blow to one’s self esteem. Thoughts of “what did I do wrong? Could I have been better? What was wrong with me that made them treat me like that? Why wasn’t I good enough?” sadly come easily to people with unresolved relationship issues. As future relationships become a possibility, those thoughts are dragged back to the surface of emotions and it becomes difficult to have confidence in your abilities to have a successful relationship or to “be good enough” for one! This, of course, is not the case—everyone is worthy and deserving of healthy, happy relationships. It just takes acknowledging that and recognizing that past failures are not determinate of current or future successes!

Don’t let any of these things get in the way of a potentially successful relationship that could bring you the peace and happiness that you want in a partnership! Learn from the past, and let those experiences provide you the right tools for getting it right in the future.

Read this next: How to Use an Inheritance to Improve Your Life

Posted in

Common Health Issues That Affect Middle-Aged Men

By Andrea Kay | January 27, 2023

As you age, your body often declines in health. Because your body is not in its prime and your organs have been working longer,…

How to Measure Product Success in Your Business

By Andrea Kay | January 26, 2023

As a business owner, it is paramount to measure the success of your products in order to expand and reap profits. By surveying which…

What to Do Before You and Your Partner Decide to Have a Baby

By Andrea Kay | December 27, 2022

Having a baby is a big step to take with your partner. You’re bringing a new life into the world and you’re permanently changing…

What to Do Before Buying a Business

By Andrea Kay | December 27, 2022

If you want to build wealth, owning a business can be a great way to do that. Some people make that happen by building…

Why Old Software is Hurting Your Business

By Andrea Kay | December 27, 2022

Software is essential for just about every conceivable business. No matter your industry, no matter your market, you need to be taking advantage of…

Crucial Business Functions That Require Greater Investment

By Andrea Kay | December 27, 2022

There are a lot of elements that go into running a business. However, some of them deserve special attention. When you shift your focus…

What You Need to Know About Smart Credit Card Use

By Andrea Kay | December 9, 2022

Are you applying for a credit card for the first time? Having a credit card will open many doors for you, especially if you’re…

How to Improve Cybersecurity at Your Business

By Andrea Kay | December 9, 2022

Every business in the modern world is going to incorporate a substantial amount of technology. This will also be true for your business, no…

Health Risks That Increase as You Get Older

By Andrea Kay | December 7, 2022

There are plenty of things to look forward to as you age. Retirement tends to be one of the more commonly discussed and planned-for…